Back then they didn’t want me. Now I’m hot, they all on me….to notice what you have to offer.” – Mark Amend
Rejection knows no bounds. It can easily take over your personal relationships, invade your business professionalism, and tear down your self-esteem. Everyone, I repeat EVERYONE, is or has been affected by rejection. It is inevitable not only throughout life, but in building your own business as well.
Throughout the many phases in my life, I’ve faced constant rejection. I was rejected by potential job opportunities, deceiving friends, unfaithful significant others, and at times even by my own family members. When I decided to brand myself as a freelance marketer, I had more doors closed in my face than open opportunities for growth. Nobody really wanted to let a 20 year-old undergraduate student manage their business’s marketing campaigns. Every time I encountered these reoccurring disappointments, I found it more and more difficult to overcome the continuous letdown.
I found myself feeling as though I was not good enough when in reality, I was being redirected to a better opportunity. My first freelance job lead to multiple opportunities, and eventually me creating my own brand. Remember, a clear and honest rejection is far more appreciated than a fake acceptance. The more you remind yourself of your worth, and the more you remember your moment in success, the more resilient you will become in regards to dealing with rejection. Here are a few tips to help you overcome the often daily occurrences of rejection:
- Remind yourself how much you are loved. Call your closest family members, friends, or your significant others and vent to them about your trials. Having a strong support system is important, especially if you’re sensitive to rejection. Their positive words will help you almost instantly. I could not even tell you how many times I’ve picked up the phone to call my mom or dad after a hard day. Know that people care about you, that others value your presence, and that you belong.
- Remember, anyone can change their mind. Keep in mind that businesses and potential clientele may change their reactions to your business plan after the right persistence and preparation is exemplified. Certain individuals may never end up accepting you. But engaging in the efforts to draw people to you is ideal. Look for and accept constructive criticism, and make the necessary changes to better yourself and better your brand.
- Speak positive. Think positive. People who expect acceptance, as opposed to rejection, are more likely to get it. When you expect acceptance and positivism, your upbeat personality and business professionalism will translate into others’ behavior. Positivity, and a great smile, is contagious.
Rejection fuels insecurity and negativity. Whether in building your new business or just in life overall, never give into rejection. Look at a ‘no’ as a possible chance to convert it to a ‘yes’. Being turned down may not only be a potential lesson, but a blessing in disguise. As you think back you may see that you were either in the wrong friendship, an unhealthy relationship, or seeking business in the wrong places. At the end of the day, remember a “lost” opportunity is a redirection to a better endeavor. Don’t crumble under the negative pressures of rejection, and the insecurities it develops. Conquer rejection and it’s efforts to defeat you.